Am I too old school for this New Generation Love?

In this generation of Hook-ups and one-night stands. Where we let people near our bodies before letting them anywhere near our Soul. Where Flings and Casual dating is a Culture. Where not caring and putting effort is the new cool.

Am I too old school for still believing in Real love or believing that it exists?

Love where I can hold hands while walking, or where I can call him while waiting for my Uber, or maybe where I want him to be there for me after watching a Horror movie on Teleparty! Or maybe I want that kind of Love where we can make a to-do list of all the things that we can do together Someday, in the hope that there will be that SOMEDAY! Or maybe I want that kind of love where we can prioritize our Careers equally. Where there is no I when it comes to arguments but us. Or maybe the one that gets people to ask how you two are still together?

I am not sure the kind of love I am talking about still exists or not but I want to believe that it does. I know it’s not something that gets build up in a day, it takes months or maybe years of Constant fighting and still understanding one another, years of making thousands of mistakes and still standing together. This kind of love needs a strong foundation of friendship. To quote a dialogue from one of our favorite Bollywood movies:

“Pyaar dosti hai! Agr voh meri sbse achi dost nahi bann skti mai usse kabhi pyaar kar hi nahi sakta kyunki dosti bina toh pyaar hota hi nahi!

(Love is Friendship. If she can’t be my best friend, I can never love her because without friendship there is no Love.)

I guess this dialogue makes more sense now. A common mistake that our generation is making these days is that everyone wants to fast-forward things. Everyone believes that they can get better people out there if they can only wait or Explore more. But NO that’s not true, you don’t get better people by looking out. You have to take a regular person and make him/her better for you. Or maybe make yourself the best version for them.

Love is definitely not a one-way street and you cannot just expect to get this kind of Love without putting out the required efforts. It’s a two-way process. You need to be there for them and be their Happiest cheer-leader when they succeed or be the person they come to first in case of any problem. Everyone is going through stuff these days. So Cherish the people that you have and just tell them today how much you appreciate them. Little Kindness goes a long way.
Love Amisha :)